Author: tovaleigh1

Hands Up If You’re Having Sex

People often joke about sex after marriage. “What sex”? Right? But for me, the big change in our sex life came after we had children, and if I am being totally honest, I don’t think the lack of sleep or time were the only reasons for why we basically stopped having sex for a while. I mean let’s face it, how much time and energy do you really need for a three-minute ‘quickie’ before the baby wakes? In my personal experience, it had more to do with how I felt about my own sexuality. You see, something happened to...

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Today Motherhood Beat The Shit Out Of Me

My day starts with three hours at the zoo listening to my 3-year-olds moan, fight and constantly ask me to do something for them. I then take my eldest to an afternoon event at her school. There I am, in the midst of another child packed activity, shattered and kinda recovering from a night out we had last night, PLUS did I mention we ran out of milk this morning so I hadn’t had a coffee all freaking day?!?!?! The twins and Mike join us at some point, there is more moaning, “why did she have a bigger slice...

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The Truth Behind The “Perfect” Selfie

Last week I shared an image of myself in my granny pants and labelled it as “behind the scenes of the “perfect” selfie”. It went viral. Like, crazy viral… Who knew my granny pants would have such an effect on the world, right? But all jokes aside, I wanted to share with you how I feel about the world’s reaction. For one I just need to say this – WOW!!!!! What just happened?!?! You have no idea how hard it was to share that image. I am NOT used to prancing around in my granny pants for the whole...

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Make It Count My Dear

I met an extraordinary 80-year-old man today who asked me if I ever look at myself in the mirror. “Of course I do” I replied. “Yes, I am sure you look and do all the things we do, like put your makeup on, fix your hair, make sure you don’t have parsley in your teeth, but do you REALLY look?” he asked. “You see, when I look in the mirror, I don’t see an old man with grey hair and a walking stick. I see a little boy, playing with his mother in their front room, I see a...

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There Is Nothing Sexier Than Being Real

Last week I shared the “perfect” selfie on Instagram (see the small image on the bottom left). It got a whole lot of “likes”, friends told me I was sexy and I even made it my new profile picture on Facebook. Today I am sharing the ‘behind the scenes’ of that image. How I actually looked when it was taken, without 20 attempts to get it right, without cropping out the bits I don’t like and without adding the ‘make me look pretty’ filter. You see, over in the weekend I read an article about how more and more...

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